Down syndrome: A family’s journey
In March, Mary Anne Christo and her husband, Eric Waksmunski, were blessed with twins.
It was a difficult pregnancy and doctors determined the babies had to be delivered early.
Anticipating the usual complications faced by premature babies, the Mahoning Township family was devastated to learn both of their precious little boys have Down syndrome.
The next few months would be filled with countless sleepless nights, hotel stays and hospital vigils. The shock and grief Christo and Waksmunski first experienced is waning and they have accepted that their lives have changed forever.
For Christo, the dreams she had for the twins as she awaited their birth are no more. She has learned she can still dream, but they are different dreams now.
Their priorities have also changed. What was important in the days before the twins were born — in Waksmunski’s case, the ups and downs of his beloved New York Giants or Mets — is no longer important. Time once spent watching a game is now spent online, where he may be learning more about Down syndrome or researching a recommended medical procedure.
After too many nights going to bed, praying their babies would not die as they slept, the couple has learned to take one day at a time.
For as traumatic as this experience has been for the family, it has also opened their eyes and given them passage into a new world, a community of parents of children with special needs.
It is not a life they would have chosen had they been given a choice, but it is one that has embraced and supported them as they struggled to deal with often frightening and stressful days, filled with life-and-death decisions.
Several weeks after the twins were born, Waksmunski created “Shane and Wyatt’s Journey with Down syndrome,” on the social media network Facebook.
While it initially started with family and friends, it quickly grew and has attracted nearly 1,100 supporters from around the world.
Many of those who joined have children with Down syndrome or other disabilities.
To tell their story, and to reach out to other families who may face a similar experience, the Waksmunskis have agreed to open their home and their lives and share this special journey in an ongoing series in the TIMES NEWS.
Wyatt Waksmunski, left, sleeps as his twin brother Shane cries during a visit to Wyatt's crib in the hospital. (All photos by Bob Ford, Times News Photographer)
Anticipating the usual complications faced by premature babies, the Mahoning Township family was devastated to learn both of their precious little boys have Down syndrome.
The next few months would be filled with countless sleepless nights, hotel stays and hospital vigils. The shock and grief Christo and Waksmunski first experienced is waning and they have accepted that their lives have changed forever.
For Christo, the dreams she had for the twins as she awaited their birth are no more. She has learned she can still dream, but they are different dreams now.
Their priorities have also changed. What was important in the days before the twins were born — in Waksmunski’s case, the ups and downs of his beloved New York Giants or Mets — is no longer important. Time once spent watching a game is now spent online, where he may be learning more about Down syndrome or researching a recommended medical procedure.
After too many nights going to bed, praying their babies would not die as they slept, the couple has learned to take one day at a time.
For as traumatic as this experience has been for the family, it has also opened their eyes and given them passage into a new world, a community of parents of children with special needs.
It is not a life they would have chosen had they been given a choice, but it is one that has embraced and supported them as they struggled to deal with often frightening and stressful days, filled with life-and-death decisions.
Several weeks after the twins were born, Waksmunski created “Shane and Wyatt’s Journey with Down syndrome,” on the social media network Facebook.
While it initially started with family and friends, it quickly grew and has attracted nearly 1,100 supporters from around the world.
Many of those who joined have children with Down syndrome or other disabilities.
To tell their story, and to reach out to other families who may face a similar experience, the Waksmunskis have agreed to open their home and their lives and share this special journey in an ongoing series in the TIMES NEWS.
Chapter 1: A difficult pregnancy
By KAREN CIMMS
kcimms@tnonline.com
It was Sept. 2, her 42nd birthday, when Mary Anne Christo learned she was pregnant. She and her husband, Eric Waksmunski, 46, were looking forward to having another child. Their son, Jesse, was 2.
Days before Christmas, the Mahoning Township couple received another unexpected gift when they learned they would be having twins, two more boys to be exact. The family was overjoyed.
The babies were due May 9, Mother’s Day.
Almost from the beginning, Christo’s pregnancy was difficult. Within a week of getting the news, she developed hyperemesis, an almost disabling form of morning sickness that lasts all day, every day. As soon as she drank any fluid, she began vomiting, sometimes up to 50 times a day. The illness prevented her from working and required weekly visits to the doctor, and then the hospital, where she received intravenous fluids to keep from becoming dehydrated. She was eventually put on a medication given tocancer patients undergoing chemotherapy to help with the nausea and vomiting. It didn’t.
“It’s just hormonal,” said Christo, aregistered nurse , who, like her husband, is originally from South River, N.J. “I have no idea why I got it, and only a percentage of women will get it. I got no relief from the medication. I remember thinking I could go to 38 weeks (a normal pregnancy is 40 weeks), and when I found out I was having twins, I was thinking I could possibly go even earlier.”
After experiencing the same thing when she was pregnant with Jesse, Christo knew delivering the babies would be the only relief she would get from the almost constant vomiting.
“You’re so dizzy constantly, as if you are out on a bad sea. Usually when you vomit, you feel better. But with this, you cannot get a reprieve. Your head is always spinning and you have to lie down all the time,” she said.
She knows of only two other people who have had the same experience.
According to the Hyperemesis Education and Research Foundation, approximately 10 percent of women will terminate a pregnancy due to complications of hyperemesis, and many more consider termination out of desperation. Failure to treat or insufficient treatment can result in metabolic imbalance and organ failure, and termination of the pregnancy could be recommended to save the life of the mother.
“Years ago, women would die,” said Christo. “You can’t take any fluids in.”
She was so sick when she was pregnant with Jesse that at six months, she didn’t even look pregnant. That was not the case with the twins.
Although she continued to suffer with the hyperemesis, her uterus was getting quite large — larger than it should be.
Having failed a quad screen test (a maternal blood test given between the 16th and 18th weeks of pregnancy and used to determine the risk of delivering a baby with an abnormality), it was recommended that Christo undergo a level 2 (or high level) ultrasound to give the doctors a better look at what was going on inside her uterus.
After the test, on Dec. 21, the couple learned Christo was carrying twin boys. They were told it was common to fail a quad screen when carrying multiples, and that the test showed no sign of any abnormalities in either baby, other than the amniotic sacs (the membrane that surrounds the baby and is commonly known as the ‘bag of waters’), appearing to be a little large.
It was something the doctors said they would keep an eye on.
“We left elated, thinking ‘Oh my goodness! We’re having twins. It’s the greatest thing. They’re both healthy and no problems!’ And that was probably the best Christmas I had,” said Christo.
But by early January, things started going down hill, and by mid-February, the pregnancy was in jeopardy.
“I was in the hospital probably two weeks before I gave birth to them because I was so ill,” said Christo, who had also developed polyhydramnios, which was causing an excess of amniotic fluid in the sacs. Polyhydramnios could have one or more causes, such as maternal diabetes mellitus (high blood sugar) and Down syndrome. It can also cause cord prolapse, which can result in the death of the fetus. The doctors also determined the placentas for both babies were defective.
As the amount of amniotic fluid continued to build up, Christo said her uterus was becoming “enormous.” One doctor said she was “a walking balloon, like a ticking time bomb.”
“The sacs could have ruptured from contracting,” Christo explained. “The uterus couldn’t handle all the fluid.”
The buildup of fluid was causing serious problems for the babies.
“I was having an issue with my cords,” said Christo. “Baby B, who was Wyatt, his cord was closing. They were saying he wasn’t getting (enough) oxygen. They weren’t really sure, and they thought if they tapped me, and pulled fluid out of the sac, maybe that would give the cord some relief.”
The doctors removed a liter of fluid from “Baby B’s” amniotic sac, but the cord was still prolapsed. They could have tried the same procedure on “Baby A,” which was Shane, but did not want to keep poking the placentas.
Hoping to learn what was wrong with her placentas, Christo asked the doctor to send the tapped amniotic fluid out to be tested. She remembers the perinatologist tried to discourage her, saying testing wasn’t necessary as they had no concern about any type of abnormalities with the babies.
It would be a week before the results came back.
In the meantime, an early birth was looking more likely.
“They were monitoring the babies every day,” said Waksmunski. “She was hospitalized at that point and every morning she started with the ultrasound. They were monitoring the babies, the cords, the flow through the cord, and they were just holding off as long as they could.”
In preparation for an early birth, Christo was given betamethasone shots. A steroid, betamethasone is used to further lung development in a fetus when an early delivery is expected.
“It’s a two-shot process,” said Waksmunski. “They have to go a week apart, so once they start that process, you know you’re going to be early.” They gave her that second shot on a Friday. “They told us ‘tomorrow’s the day; get the doctors, we’re going to get the OR ready’.”
Christo was still 10 weeks away from her expected due date, but the risk to the babies was too great. To wait any longer could mean the loss of one or both of the babies.
“They said that Wyatt was probably within a week of passing, because his placenta and his cord were so bad,” said Waksmunski. “Every day they would make the decision, ‘is he better in mama or better outside?’ And then finally, they got to the point where they said, ‘that’s it, we got to go get him’.”
While taking one baby and not the other was not an option, it would only have been a matter of time with Shane, as his placenta was also deteriorating.
“Wyatt was just in more of a critical state,” added Waksmunski.
Doctors were unable to give the couple any answers as to why Christo was having so many problems.
“They said we were actually lucky,” added Waksmunski. “Some people they say, who have defective placentas, go through that process in their 20s (weeks), and deliver in their 25th or 26th week, and we were able to hold off until 30. They said there is a big difference between 30 and even 28 weeks and the development and the problems the babies could have.”
The couple began to prepare themselves for an early delivery. Having a Caesarian section with her first child, Christo expected to have a second one with the twins, just not so soon.
“So we knew the day before, and the only thing you are thinking is, they’re going to be early,” said Waksmunski. “So they might spend some time in the NICU (neonatal intensive care unit), depending on how they develop, and you know, you’re OK.”
“My whole thing was what is a three-pound baby going to look like,” said Christo. The nursing staff secured permission from the mother of a premie for Christo to see her baby.
“I just remember thinking, ‘Oh what a beautiful little baby. That’s fine, three pounds.’”
She knew what to expect, and was prepared, but neither she nor Waksmunski were ready for what happened next.
“When I think of the next day, oh my God, how my life changed,” recalled Christo.
Shane and Wyatt were born on Saturday, March 6. Doctors immediately suspected that Wyatt had Down syndrome, but were not sure about Shane.
On Monday, they received the results from the amniotic fluid Mary had requested be tested — Wyatt had Down syndrome; further tests proved that Shane did as well.
The odds against both boys having Down syndrome, especially being fraternal twins, were astronomical.
The Waksmunskis were devastated.
“All we did was cry for several weeks,” said Christo. “I felt like I lost a baby. I mourned as if I had lost a baby. I lost the children I thought I was going to have. It’s truly like a death, because you envision a life with these children and you anticipate for them, their future, and all the dreams you have, and then when you have them, when you are told they have Down syndrome, all that changes.”
With time, the shock and grief melted into acceptance and an understanding that their lives have changed.
“I truly, truly take life one day at a time,” she said. “People always say, you should just live for today, and I didn’t. I would dream for this in the future or this, or think of this, or 10 years down the road, and I truly only live for today, where I didn’t before.
“I really felt like, in the beginning, when this first happened, like I couldn’t dream, because what I had dreamed, was no longer an option anymore, so I just felt like I couldn’t dream anymore, but now, I’m just dreaming different dreams,” said Christo.
Waksmunski said his priorities have changed.
“What was important on March 5 is no longer as important on March 6 for us, even silly things. I’m a big sports fan, and I have yet to sit down and watch a complete baseball game this year. I find myself doing medical research. I find myself doing things to take care of my kids. I go to the hospital, and there was a time when it was hard to get me away from the TV, and today, is that the most important thing? So the Mets lost, so what? I think you learn how fragile life is.
“We’ve gone to bed many nights, hoping that our kids don’t die overnight. And that changes your perspective on life,” he said.
The first few months of Shane and Wyatt’s journey have been difficult. The boys spent many days fighting for their lives.
As the Waksmunskis faced these challenges, they opened themselves up to a new community where they found not only support, but became part of a new family that has embraced them, shared their stories, their ups and downs, and helped them navigate a new path, not the one they anticipated, but one that promises to have its own joys and special moments.
Next month, read about Shane and Wyatt’s months-long hospital stay and their long-awaited homecoming.
azubek@tnonline.com
According to Dr. Brian Skotko, a physician in the Down syndrome program at Children’s Hospital Boston and a member of the board of directors for the National Down Syndrome Society (NDSS), Down syndrome is “the most common chromosomal condition in humans,” in that one out of every 733 single-baby births will have Down syndrome.
“It’s a condition where the person has extra DNA material,” he said.
According to the NDSS website, which Skotko recommends, the extra DNA material is “usually caused by an error in cell division called ‘nondisjunction.’ Nondisjunction results in an embryo with three copies of chromosome 21 instead of the usual two.”
There are three types of Down syndrome: Trisomy 21, Translocation, and Mosaicism.
Each type has no known cause or cure and affects people in all races.
Trisomy 21 Down syndrome
Trisomy 21 is the most common form of Down syndrome, affecting 95 percent of all individuals diagnosed with the chromosomal variation.
The DNA error occurs prior to or at conception, when a pair of chromosome 21s in either the sperm or the egg fail to separate properly.
The extra chromosome is then reproduced in every cell that is developed, resulting in 47 chromosomes being present in all cells, rather than the normal 46.
Translocation Down syndrome
Translocation is known to affect 3 to 4 percent of individuals with Down syndrome.
According to the NDSS website, “part of chromosome 21 breaks off during cell division and attaches to another chromosome, typically chromosome 14. While the total number of chromosomes in the cells remain 46, the presence of an extra part of chromosome 21 causes the characteristics of Down syndrome.”
This is the only form of Down syndrome that can be inherited, depending on the parent’s genetic material.
According to the Mayo Clinic website, if one of the parents is a “balanced carrier” of translocation, meaning that their genetic material is rearranged in some way, the odds of a child having Down syndrome can range from 3 to 12 percent, depending on which parent is the carrier.
Mosaicism Down syndrome
Mosaicism is the most rare form of Down syndrome, affecting only 1 to 2 percent of individuals with this condition.
It occurs when three copies of chromosomes are replicated in some of the cells during embryo formation. This means that some cells will have 46 chromosomes, which is needed for proper development; while others will have 47.
Editor’s note: Further investigation into Down syndrome, including causes, symptoms, diagnostic methods and more will be published in future installments.
kcimms@tnonline.com
It was Sept. 2, her 42nd birthday, when Mary Anne Christo learned she was pregnant. She and her husband, Eric Waksmunski, 46, were looking forward to having another child. Their son, Jesse, was 2.
Eric Waksmunski and his wife Mary check on Wyatt before going to Shane's room during a hospital visit.
The babies were due May 9, Mother’s Day.
Almost from the beginning, Christo’s pregnancy was difficult. Within a week of getting the news, she developed hyperemesis, an almost disabling form of morning sickness that lasts all day, every day. As soon as she drank any fluid, she began vomiting, sometimes up to 50 times a day. The illness prevented her from working and required weekly visits to the doctor, and then the hospital, where she received intravenous fluids to keep from becoming dehydrated. She was eventually put on a medication given to
“It’s just hormonal,” said Christo, a
After experiencing the same thing when she was pregnant with Jesse, Christo knew delivering the babies would be the only relief she would get from the almost constant vomiting.
“You’re so dizzy constantly, as if you are out on a bad sea. Usually when you vomit, you feel better. But with this, you cannot get a reprieve. Your head is always spinning and you have to lie down all the time,” she said.
She knows of only two other people who have had the same experience.
According to the Hyperemesis Education and Research Foundation, approximately 10 percent of women will terminate a pregnancy due to complications of hyperemesis, and many more consider termination out of desperation. Failure to treat or insufficient treatment can result in metabolic imbalance and organ failure, and termination of the pregnancy could be recommended to save the life of the mother.
Shane locks eyes with his mother during one of the parents' hospital visits.
She was so sick when she was pregnant with Jesse that at six months, she didn’t even look pregnant. That was not the case with the twins.
Although she continued to suffer with the hyperemesis, her uterus was getting quite large — larger than it should be.
Having failed a quad screen test (a maternal blood test given between the 16th and 18th weeks of pregnancy and used to determine the risk of delivering a baby with an abnormality), it was recommended that Christo undergo a level 2 (or high level) ultrasound to give the doctors a better look at what was going on inside her uterus.
After the test, on Dec. 21, the couple learned Christo was carrying twin boys. They were told it was common to fail a quad screen when carrying multiples, and that the test showed no sign of any abnormalities in either baby, other than the amniotic sacs (the membrane that surrounds the baby and is commonly known as the ‘bag of waters’), appearing to be a little large.
It was something the doctors said they would keep an eye on.
“We left elated, thinking ‘Oh my goodness! We’re having twins. It’s the greatest thing. They’re both healthy and no problems!’ And that was probably the best Christmas I had,” said Christo.
But by early January, things started going down hill, and by mid-February, the pregnancy was in jeopardy.
“I was in the hospital probably two weeks before I gave birth to them because I was so ill,” said Christo, who had also developed polyhydramnios, which was causing an excess of amniotic fluid in the sacs. Polyhydramnios could have one or more causes, such as maternal diabetes mellitus (high blood sugar) and Down syndrome. It can also cause cord prolapse, which can result in the death of the fetus. The doctors also determined the placentas for both babies were defective.
As the amount of amniotic fluid continued to build up, Christo said her uterus was becoming “enormous.” One doctor said she was “a walking balloon, like a ticking time bomb.”
“The sacs could have ruptured from contracting,” Christo explained. “The uterus couldn’t handle all the fluid.”
Eric Waksmunski pulls the covers back to get a look at Wyatt during a hospital visit.
“I was having an issue with my cords,” said Christo. “Baby B, who was Wyatt, his cord was closing. They were saying he wasn’t getting (enough) oxygen. They weren’t really sure, and they thought if they tapped me, and pulled fluid out of the sac, maybe that would give the cord some relief.”
The doctors removed a liter of fluid from “Baby B’s” amniotic sac, but the cord was still prolapsed. They could have tried the same procedure on “Baby A,” which was Shane, but did not want to keep poking the placentas.
Hoping to learn what was wrong with her placentas, Christo asked the doctor to send the tapped amniotic fluid out to be tested. She remembers the perinatologist tried to discourage her, saying testing wasn’t necessary as they had no concern about any type of abnormalities with the babies.
It would be a week before the results came back.
In the meantime, an early birth was looking more likely.
“They were monitoring the babies every day,” said Waksmunski. “She was hospitalized at that point and every morning she started with the ultrasound. They were monitoring the babies, the cords, the flow through the cord, and they were just holding off as long as they could.”
In preparation for an early birth, Christo was given betamethasone shots. A steroid, betamethasone is used to further lung development in a fetus when an early delivery is expected.
“It’s a two-shot process,” said Waksmunski. “They have to go a week apart, so once they start that process, you know you’re going to be early.” They gave her that second shot on a Friday. “They told us ‘tomorrow’s the day; get the doctors, we’re going to get the OR ready’.”
Christo was still 10 weeks away from her expected due date, but the risk to the babies was too great. To wait any longer could mean the loss of one or both of the babies.
“They said that Wyatt was probably within a week of passing, because his placenta and his cord were so bad,” said Waksmunski. “Every day they would make the decision, ‘is he better in mama or better outside?’ And then finally, they got to the point where they said, ‘that’s it, we got to go get him’.”
While taking one baby and not the other was not an option, it would only have been a matter of time with Shane, as his placenta was also deteriorating.
“Wyatt was just in more of a critical state,” added Waksmunski.
Doctors were unable to give the couple any answers as to why Christo was having so many problems.
“They said we were actually lucky,” added Waksmunski. “Some people they say, who have defective placentas, go through that process in their 20s (weeks), and deliver in their 25th or 26th week, and we were able to hold off until 30. They said there is a big difference between 30 and even 28 weeks and the development and the problems the babies could have.”
The couple began to prepare themselves for an early delivery. Having a Caesarian section with her first child, Christo expected to have a second one with the twins, just not so soon.
“So we knew the day before, and the only thing you are thinking is, they’re going to be early,” said Waksmunski. “So they might spend some time in the NICU (neonatal intensive care unit), depending on how they develop, and you know, you’re OK.”
“My whole thing was what is a three-pound baby going to look like,” said Christo. The nursing staff secured permission from the mother of a premie for Christo to see her baby.
“I just remember thinking, ‘Oh what a beautiful little baby. That’s fine, three pounds.’”
She knew what to expect, and was prepared, but neither she nor Waksmunski were ready for what happened next.
“When I think of the next day, oh my God, how my life changed,” recalled Christo.
Shane and Wyatt were born on Saturday, March 6. Doctors immediately suspected that Wyatt had Down syndrome, but were not sure about Shane.
On Monday, they received the results from the amniotic fluid Mary had requested be tested — Wyatt had Down syndrome; further tests proved that Shane did as well.
The odds against both boys having Down syndrome, especially being fraternal twins, were astronomical.
The Waksmunskis were devastated.
“All we did was cry for several weeks,” said Christo. “I felt like I lost a baby. I mourned as if I had lost a baby. I lost the children I thought I was going to have. It’s truly like a death, because you envision a life with these children and you anticipate for them, their future, and all the dreams you have, and then when you have them, when you are told they have Down syndrome, all that changes.”
With time, the shock and grief melted into acceptance and an understanding that their lives have changed.
“I truly, truly take life one day at a time,” she said. “People always say, you should just live for today, and I didn’t. I would dream for this in the future or this, or think of this, or 10 years down the road, and I truly only live for today, where I didn’t before.
“I really felt like, in the beginning, when this first happened, like I couldn’t dream, because what I had dreamed, was no longer an option anymore, so I just felt like I couldn’t dream anymore, but now, I’m just dreaming different dreams,” said Christo.
Waksmunski said his priorities have changed.
“What was important on March 5 is no longer as important on March 6 for us, even silly things. I’m a big sports fan, and I have yet to sit down and watch a complete baseball game this year. I find myself doing medical research. I find myself doing things to take care of my kids. I go to the hospital, and there was a time when it was hard to get me away from the TV, and today, is that the most important thing? So the Mets lost, so what? I think you learn how fragile life is.
“We’ve gone to bed many nights, hoping that our kids don’t die overnight. And that changes your perspective on life,” he said.
The first few months of Shane and Wyatt’s journey have been difficult. The boys spent many days fighting for their lives.
As the Waksmunskis faced these challenges, they opened themselves up to a new community where they found not only support, but became part of a new family that has embraced them, shared their stories, their ups and downs, and helped them navigate a new path, not the one they anticipated, but one that promises to have its own joys and special moments.
Next month, read about Shane and Wyatt’s months-long hospital stay and their long-awaited homecoming.
What is Down syndrome?
By AMY ZUBEKazubek@tnonline.com
According to Dr. Brian Skotko, a physician in the Down syndrome program at Children’s Hospital Boston and a member of the board of directors for the National Down Syndrome Society (NDSS), Down syndrome is “the most common chromosomal condition in humans,” in that one out of every 733 single-baby births will have Down syndrome.
“It’s a condition where the person has extra DNA material,” he said.
According to the NDSS website, which Skotko recommends, the extra DNA material is “usually caused by an error in cell division called ‘nondisjunction.’ Nondisjunction results in an embryo with three copies of chromosome 21 instead of the usual two.”
There are three types of Down syndrome: Trisomy 21, Translocation, and Mosaicism.
Each type has no known cause or cure and affects people in all races.
Trisomy 21 Down syndrome
Trisomy 21 is the most common form of Down syndrome, affecting 95 percent of all individuals diagnosed with the chromosomal variation.
The DNA error occurs prior to or at conception, when a pair of chromosome 21s in either the sperm or the egg fail to separate properly.
The extra chromosome is then reproduced in every cell that is developed, resulting in 47 chromosomes being present in all cells, rather than the normal 46.
Translocation Down syndrome
Translocation is known to affect 3 to 4 percent of individuals with Down syndrome.
According to the NDSS website, “part of chromosome 21 breaks off during cell division and attaches to another chromosome, typically chromosome 14. While the total number of chromosomes in the cells remain 46, the presence of an extra part of chromosome 21 causes the characteristics of Down syndrome.”
This is the only form of Down syndrome that can be inherited, depending on the parent’s genetic material.
According to the Mayo Clinic website, if one of the parents is a “balanced carrier” of translocation, meaning that their genetic material is rearranged in some way, the odds of a child having Down syndrome can range from 3 to 12 percent, depending on which parent is the carrier.
Mosaicism Down syndrome
Mosaicism is the most rare form of Down syndrome, affecting only 1 to 2 percent of individuals with this condition.
It occurs when three copies of chromosomes are replicated in some of the cells during embryo formation. This means that some cells will have 46 chromosomes, which is needed for proper development; while others will have 47.
Editor’s note: Further investigation into Down syndrome, including causes, symptoms, diagnostic methods and more will be published in future installments.
